I guess for me – it really all started back in 2000 when I read the book The Tibetan Book of Living and Dying by Sogyal Rinpoche. Although I’d been both religious and spiritual all my life, up until that point I had never really given much thought to the process of crossing from this world into the next. The book opened my eyes to the idea that there are steps to the process of dying. Much later when my husband and I started our family, I came back to this idea of birth and death being gateways and I became curious about what exactly is the process for a new soul to come to Earth.
The subject fascinates me and over the years I done as much reading as I can about how exactly a new spirit arrives in their human form. I’ve asked priests, midwives, spiritual teachers and yoga gurus and just about anyone else to will talk to me about how this process might occur, and though their answers might vary there are some common themes. One of the themes that is repeated over and over is the idea that there is some greater wisdom going on here which pairs a certain baby to a certain set of parents or parent. Some traditions hold that it is God that chooses their baby from them while other traditions tend to see it as the baby’s choice, and still others believe that there is a collaboration between God and the baby’s soul and that they choose the parents together. Sometimes it appears that these individuals have something to experience together. Perhaps the baby wishes to be born into a family that rides horses because that is the primary experience that this soul is looking for in this life. Perhaps there is a spiritual connection between this baby’s soul and parents. It could be a connection that was formed in heaven before either came to earth, or it could be a connection based on a previous lifetime that was shared together.
Most of the writing about this process, comes from the belief that souls come to Earth more than once. I know that as I’ve grown and changed, my own beliefs have moved in this direction. For those of you who hold different beliefs, I’m not asking you to change, but rather I invite you to come with me as we explore the ideas that are currently circulating on our planet about how a soul comes to Earth.
So once a soul is set on a path for earthly incarnation, then the first step to the process is deciding on or matching with a parent or set of parents. This process really depends on the soul’s purpose. For example, if two souls had been together before perhaps as a mother and daughter set, then they might wish to relive that experience again or perhaps relive it in reverse, so the daughter becomes the mother in the new lifetime. Sometimes the soul needs or wishes to incarnate in a particular area or city and the choice will be less specific to the individual parent. As diverse as people are, so are their souls and what they wish to experience/create in their lifetime.
Once this connection to a potential parent is made, then the soul creates a connection to that person. This connection is visible to those who are sensitive enough to see it. Certain clairvoyants can actually see a baby’s spirit in their potential parents’ aura, and can even communicate with that spirit baby. There are many many stories out there written by such people who can see and communicate with these spirit babies. Walter Makichen’s wonderful book entitled Spirit Babies: How to Communicate with the Child You’re Meant to Have is a collection of such stories and techniques based on a thirty year clairvoyant practice of connecting parents with their unborn children.
When one member in a couple feels more drawn to have a child then the other, this is sometimes because the spirit baby has already appeared in that person’s aura and so subconsciously the person picks up on that and wishes for a child. Sometimes two spirit babies will show together in an aura because they wish to incarnate into the same family. Sometimes the spirit baby has definite idea of being either a girl or boy, and sometimes they don’t care and will appear as either sex dependent on what’s available. Some babies are so attached to a particular person that they will wait lifetimes to be their child. Others will bounce around from one aura to another simply looking for an opportunity to come to Earth. So there is a lot going on even before conception.
Conception though, is held to be extremely important in all religious traditions. This appears to be the moment when a deep biological and spiritual connection is made between the soul and the physical seed that will grow into a beautifully formed new human being.
Some traditions hold that there are helpers along the way to this process of becoming human. The Jewish story of the Angel of Conception named Lailah is a wonderful example of this. In this midrash, Lailah brings the soul and the human seed (the egg and sperm) together inside the womb.
“In doing so, Lailah serves as a midwife of souls. While the infant grows in the womb, Lailah places a lighted candle at the head of the unborn infant, so he or she can see from one end of the world to the other. So too does the angel teach the unborn child the entire Torah, as well as the history of his or her soul. Then, when the time comes for the child to be born, the angel extinguishes the light in the womb and brings forth the child into the world. And the instant the child emerges, the angel lightly strikes its finger to the child’s lip, as if to say “Shh,” and this causes the child to forget everything learned in the womb.”
The story implies, that knowledge is present, merely forgotten, much like the Jungian concept of the collective unconscious. This myth also explains the origin of the mysterious indentation every person has on their upper lip. The myth goes on to say that Lailah watches over the child all of his days, serving as a guardian angel. And when the time comes for a person to take leave of this world, Lailah leads him from this world to the next. “
The children’s story Before You Were Born by Howard Schwartz is a beautiful retelling to this piece of Jewish spirituality. This story of Lailah suggests there is much going on for the baby spiritually while they are developing physically inside the uterus. Part 2 of this blog entry will explore different ideas about what happens for a baby’s soul during pregnancy. I hope you will stay tuned…
XO
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84 thoughts on “Baby’s Spirit : How Does A Soul Come to Earth? Part 1”
I love this idea, I believe that we choose our parents before we get here and love to hear other stories about it as well. I found it very interesting when I was first pregnant with my oldest, before I even knew I was pregnant for sure yet, I had a dream that felt very real, there was a teenage girl and boy sitting across from me at the table in my kitchen, the girl asked me which one I wanted to come first, and I could tell she was getting a kick out of suprising me with such a question, I just told her what ever they thought was best. The girl was very strong bright energy and the boy was a little harder to pick up so I was sure I was having a girl. I ended up having a boy and then a girl two years later! 🙂
Alanna – you are definitely not the only one with such a story. Over the years, many women have told me stories about dreams that they had which featured what they believe was their future child. Of course there is no way to definitely prove it, yet these women feel that the dream was true for them. One really interesting story, that I got from a fellow belly dancer, was about a dream she had following a period in her life where she was really questioning why she had been born to alcoholic parents. In her dream, she was “on the other side” and talking with what she describes as fellow spirits. They were having a discussion about the potential parents and asking her in she was really sure about incarnating with them. In the dream she heard herself say yes and explained the reasons why. When she woke up she felt more peaceful that she had in years. Whether or not that is a true experience, the dream itself allowed her to understand her parents better and make peace with her past and that is a gift. As I said, the more I look into in, the more I feel that there is something large going on that what we can see with our limited perspective.
My husband and I have been trying to conceive for a year now and it is not an easy journey for us. My doctor has given me clomid (a fertility drug) to start in a few days to help us conceive. Last night my husband and I went to a movie for our anniversary and I went into the bathroom and as I was washing my hands, a little girl about 6 yrs. old in a ballerina outfit (which was strange) appeared and said to me “are you having a baby”? and I was kind of shocked and replied to her that I wasn’t and walked out. When I walked out my husband was waiting for me by the door the whole time and there was no other adult there waiting for the little girl. I had told my husband and asked if he had seen a little girl go in and he said he didn’t see anyone. I know I am not pregnant as of today, but is it possible this was a sign for the near future that we will conceive a child, maybe even this little girl?I would appreciate some feedback :)…thanks
Hi Leann,
That’s an incredible story. It’s hard to know for sure what it means… but as I mentioned in this post, all my research has lead me to believe that there is more going on that meets the eye as first glance. One woman that I spoke with really felt that during her pregnancy her unborn child communicated with her through the comments of people around – sometimes strangers. So if it could happen to someone while pregnant… seems to me that it could happen before pregnancy as well. My advice would be to focus on being available to motherhood and available to shelter a new life within you. Perhaps even spending a few moments each day focusing with your eyes closed on that feeling of open availability. It’s a good heart and mind space to be in as you go through this fertility journey.
Marie
ps. I do skype sessions for one on one fertility hypnosis. If you are interested in that – please email me at marie.berwald@birthbliss.ca for more information.
Hiya,
Me and my partner have both been thinking about having a baby at the same time, hes working away so hes nowhere near me, yet we are both at other sides of the world thinking about having a baby, and wanting it at the same time, I said i heard a spirit of a baby chooses its parents before birth and thought that, our baby might be coming in our auras, we both keep thinking the same stuff at the same time, ive never beeen like this before, and didnt feel strange asking him if hed been thinking about having a baby a lot lately because i had too, and when did he want one and we both said next year although i do get a feeling it may be sooner than that, do you think both parents can feel the baby coming before conception? xxxxx
Hi Hazel,
From the people that I’ve talked to, that certainly seems to be the case. Sometimes the spirit can show up in both auras if that spirit is attached to both of you. My suggestion is that you find a little bit of quiet time and just talk to this little one that you and your hubby seem to be feeling. I think time passes differently on the other side, so what might seem like a long time for you (a year) might be the blink of an eye for this baby.
All the best,
Marie
I am 31 years old and have an 8 month old son. He was a very unplanned pregnancy to say the least.. Strangely, shortly before I became pregnant, I felt a presence around me .. Like something “lurking”.. And then I had a feeling like I’d become pregnant. I remember getting ready to go out with friends and looking in the mirror thinking of being pregnant soon wven though I wasnt even sexually active at the time. Shortly after that I have one night with a man I’ve known a little while but not in a relationship with and become pregnant. As soon as I find out I had a strong feeling it was going to be a boy and I could even see my life with him. One thing I couldn’t see was walking into a clinic.. Even though how logical that decision was (and I am a very logical person but also very spiritual) fast foward to today and I have a beautiful, amazing, charismatic little boy that I know was meant to be mine. I know I’m the one that will help him meet his highest potential to be whatever it is he is suppose to be. I will guide him every step of the way and learn him so that I can help him understand himself. His father is the picture by the way .. A good dad and wouldn’t change it for the world. Souls do choose each life to experience what they choose 🙂
Hi Nicole. What a lovely story. In my work I hear many stories like yours. Thank you for sharing.
I always wanted to have a girl. I thought that it would fine if I had a boy instead, but there was a deep deisre within me to have a girl. About 4 months before I became pregnant, I had the most vivid and amazing dream that I have ever had. I dreamt that I gave birth to a boy. He was beautiful and the joy I felt was incredible. When I found out I was pregnant, I immediately told my husband that it was a boy. And I claimed this to everyone throughout my pregnacy and told them of my dream. At my 20 week ultrasound we found out we were having a BOY!. I was so excited. I always thought that it was Gods way of reassuring me that we were having a boy and I would be fine with it. I love my sweet boy and wouldn’t trade him for anything in the world. This dream made my pregnancy so special to me.
What an interesting read, but I cannot find part2
Hi Jahirah,
I’m still working on part 2. It will be posted in July. 🙂
Is it written yet?
Have you finished part 2?
Hi Daisy! Still working on that. 🙂
I can’t help but be hopeful after reading this article. I lost my 2 year old son last year March and I still cant accept it and I know I never will. Lately, I have been having vivid dreams about him. I really hope that when I’m emotionally ready for another child, he will be my son again.
When my son was 3 years old he told me (unsolicited) that he chose me to be his mother. He said he was with other children where he was prior to being born and that he was shown women to choose from and he said he picked me…I asked him why he picked me and he said “you were the prettiest one”. I am not gorgeous lol but apparently at the time my son thought so..He’s 21 now and I ask him about it and of course he doesn’t remember. It is interesting to note that he also had an imaginary friend about the same time. He had quite a story behind his friend “Sari” including that he was a little boy that died in a fire. I wish I had written down some of these talks we had at the time…He doesn’t remember any of it.
I find all of this very fascinating. My husband and I lost out first child in 2006, just shy of 16 weeks. a little boy, he was so tiny and perfect. After that I just KNEW I needed to have another baby. I also knew somehow that the next baby would be a girl. I got pregnant 6 months later with our daughter. When she was about 2-3 I was giving her a bath and out of the blue she told me “Mommy I used to be in your tummy” I said “Yes you were!”. She said “No before that time.” I was confused so I asked her what she meant. She looked at me like I was crazy for not knowing then she said “First I was a boy! But I didn’t want to be a boy, so I came back as a girl!” I was just shocked to hear her say this. I find it funny that I knew I was going to have a girl next and she said she wanted to be a girl. I also joke that she used to be my mother in a past life because she is always trying to take care of me. I tell her it is my job to take care of her right now lol.
Ashley, We are prebirth researchers and would like to include your story in our forthcoming book. Please contact us at http://www.cosmiccradle.com Blessings, Elizabeth
Is there a way to remember dream clearly? How can we ask a passed away big child to come back to us? I could feel everything before the nightmare of losing my child actually happened, but why now I can’t know if my child will choose me & my husband again as parents.
Hi Eve,
My heart is sore for your loss. I don’t think there are any general answers to your questions. It would depend on each soul and what their purpose for coming into the world was. However it does appear that the same souls interact over and over again through different lifetimes. There are many books written on that subject. I think that in order to explore details pertaining to your child, you would need to consult with someone trained to communicate with spirit babies. Only your child would know that answer to your question. Blessings, Marie
wow amazing stories a child needs to be nurtured there is plenty of books around to help you. children are more open to the spirit world as well as they remember passed life experiences your children have a very special gift just listen to them 😀
i had the most amazing dream the other night i find it quite strange though as i hardy ever remember dreams but it was daylight and the stars and the moon were in the sky and i made a wish on a shooting star that i wish to be blessed with a baby the fell into my right hand as if to say your wish has been granted the dream continued on by me hold the star high above my head looking very proud then what appeared to look like a big massive moon in front of me 2 foot prints appeared inside the moon and then 2 hand prints appeared after
husband and i have been trying to start our family for 7yrs im hoping this dream was a sign that its not going to be much longer
Hello everyone! My name is Liz I am 23 years of age.I have an amazing boyfriend Daniel, my soulmate, my best friend and the love of my life. He is 30. I am currently studying a Bachelor of Nursing 1st year, Dan has started this semester to become a teacher.
I also work in aged care, have been for 4 and a half years, I have meet some oldies that have also changed my life. :).
I have very vivid dreams, past life dreams, and future dreams. I have dreamt of Dan and I our wedding day. I have also dreamt of giving birth 3 times, to three seperate children. I saw what each baby looked like. I see the first ones name, well more like 6-12months ago, over a long period. Lately I feel two spirit babies on my right shoulder, and one on my left shoulder. I am not sure what this means :).
Dan and I are very spiritual people, we believe in God, and we are also very open minded. Dan loves babies and kids alot, and I am looking forward to one day giving birth, and been the best mother, mum and friend I can be for our babies. Including providing a nurturing home and family life together. Teaching them things, and letting them be free, to be themself, support them. And bring them up as good, balanced, genuine, honest little people. Living life to the best they can, as they are.
I am a foster child, I was fostered out when I was 2weeks of age, to one family which looked after me well. I felt my birth mother had abandoned me and left me out of the family. I want to reverse this all, and give all my love to Dan and our three little ones. My friend in class, stated I would be waitng another 5 years to have the first one. We do not mind, we can finish uni and travel. I just always dream, and feel them around me, and Dan lol.
I also want to become a midwife one day, and help mothers, babies and Dads come together and teach them how to look after their bundle of joy. I love it! 🙂
Thankyou for listening! From Lizzy <3 X X X
My ex and I went through a very troubling time, a little over 4 years now he has had a dream about a little baby girl…in each dream that she appears she is a little older. She tells him things very accurate about my feelings that I haven’t even shared with him. Each dream she is older and each dream that she says I am pregnant is very accurate. Her name is promise. She has made it known since the begining this is her name. My ex and I have been seperated for 3 years now. Promise still visits his dreams randomly and reassures him. Recently i received another email from him
Before our fourth child was born, promise told him I was pregnant before I even knew. He was adamant to take a test. She told him that he had to appologize to me before it was to late because she was running out of time.
His email. It was like some one was in my ear talking to me this time. I keep telling my self to wake up but I could not wake up. This whole dream took place with me in my bed. I never seen u pregnant in my dream. Promise is sitting next to me on my bed telling me it is her time to come and be with her mother. She say’s I thought u was going to be my dad but I know she is suppose to be my mom. i asked, Well ok why r u telling me this for. I know she is not pregnant with my kid. She said Because u r the only one i can talk to. And she listens to u. I said, Hahahah ok. She said, And for so long i thought u were going to be my dad. when i do come in to this world and I am old enough to know you, you will be there to see me right? I told her I do not know about that. she asked Y. I replied because your mom and the guy u r going to be call your dad don’t like me that much and they don’t want me at there house. She told me, Well I am going to be the one that is going to change that. Then I woke up with a tear running down my eye. But if u r and she is a girl u have to name her promise.
What does this all mean? why does she keep coming into his dreams? Why is she connected to me as her mother? Is this real? Very confused, but intrigued, BTW i got fixed after my fourth child.
Any updates on what happened to Promise? We are pre-birth researchers and are curious. Blessings,
Elizabeth
Thank you for writing this article, it’s very interesting to learn about different ideas of how souls enter earth. I have one question though. I had a dream in which I met my ‘soul mother,’ a term that I’m unsure
I got cut off… Anyways, I met her soul in a dream. She was dying and kept on changing form, but I felt a deep love and connection to this soul, none that I’ve ever had to either of my parents. It was more than just a normal dream. i woke up crying with a deep sorrow in my heart that I had finally met here and she was now gone; my husband consoled me for a while. I have a very poor relationship with both of my parents and had an unhappy and volatile childhood. Is it possible that my soul accidentally latched onto the wrong mother? Have you ever come across anything similar to this in your research? Thank you.
Although I am sorry to hear about the poor relationship that you experienced with your actual parents, I would have to answer that from my research there always seems to be a reason for a soul to incarnate. I remember one story where a young women went to see a intuitive because she was pregnant and felt that she should give the baby up for adoption but she was also feeling pressure for those around her to keep the baby. So the intuitive spoke to the spirit baby. The spirit baby replied that she wanted to be born and grow up in a particular city with a particular couple, but that couple wasn’t able to have children physically, so the soul found another passage. Hence why the young woman was experience a need to give the baby up. Incidentally the adoptive parents that the soul wanted were the ones slated to receive the baby. So the story had a good ending (you can read about it in the book Spirit Babies), but that does lead me to wonder – what would have happened if that young woman had kept the baby. The soul’s plan who have been prevented. So personally I do believe that can happen as well. The soul knows what they are doing when they choose to incarnate on earth, but they can’t control everything. For example, what if the body they have chosen doesn’t work, a baby born without lungs, then they may chose to stick around and try again or they could choose to move on. So I guess my answer is that there is likely lots going on in every situation that we are not on Earth in a position to fully understand.
If possible that the soul that you met has been your mother before. Who knows… maybe even many times.
Likely talking with an intuitive who you trust who probably help you get clearer answers.
All the best,
Marie
This topic does facinate me. My husband and I had been trying for a baby for quite a few years when finally we became pregnant with identical twin boys after our first IVF cycle. Our boys were born early and we lost one of them at two days old. We were utterly devastated, yet I had such a strong longing for another child. I don’t know if this was because I was trying to fill the void or partly because I didn’t want our surviving twin to be an only child. I’d heard that if one loses a child, they should ask the spirit baby to come back to them. I wasn’t sure if I truly believed this but did so anyway in the hope that just maybe my baby boy would come back to earth. Well within weeks I was pregnant again, naturally! I now have two beautiful little boys, born 16 months apart. I’ll always wonder whether this was purely coincidence, or did the little boy we lost choose to come back to us. One thing I do know is that my boys have such an incredible connection. It’s so wonderful to see.
This is amazing. My daughter and I visited a medium last weekend who was so specific giving names and things that no one could know right down to what my daughter called her grandfather which was extremely out of the ordinary, so we knew he was for real. But when we first sat down he told us that my daughter is a very old soul and that she chose me to be her mother. And that I was an old soul but not as old as her. I had never even heard of that before and looking at our relationship which is so strong on so many levels it makes complete sense. It may sound crazy but I feel like at some point it was the other way around and she was my mother, it just feels like we have done this together prior. I am now enthralled with what you have stated and what I am finding in researching this topic. This has been such a life changing experience.
In 2005 I was ‘told’ (I’m a medium) I would have a baby girl, and was asked to give her a certain name – that’s what she wanted to be called. A couple years went by and I could see her; her hair color, eye color, body type, etc….jump ahead a couple more years and I saw her life at different phases: infant, childhood, adult all of what’s to come…little scenes of life. Since 2012, we’ve started having conversations about her needs/wants and what I can do to help her achieve them, and she is helping me be prepared for her. The communication is VERY loving and supportive. I’ve created space/time for her in my life and I’ve written letters every so often to give her later and documented all the little validations of her impending arrival. As someone who believes in sewing good Karmic seeds, I make my charitable contributions in her name. It’s been a long journey thus far but with her love/support I wait patiently. In the past year others who are intuitive can feel her energy around me and have asked me about it. I just smile and say, “Yeh, that’s my girl…she’s on her way” 🙂
I have a very different experience… My twin flame and I got together last year, it created huge turbulence and he wasn t able to break free from his former life and relationship attachments in order to start living the life he wished for.
He took his life this summer.
Also, it seems he had precognition of the events that happened as he was doing some healing work on my womb from the outside, and seemed to prepare both me and all the surroundings for actually coming back as my baby!
He has passed all the transitions necessary to the light, his soul is intact.
And he encourages me to do a long distance travel which I am about to do in the next couple of weeks. But I feel overwhelmed to say the least and am wondering if you have any advice for me.
Wow Elisabet, that is quite intense to read about, and I imagine living it is a whole another story. I would suggest that you set your intention to find people to guide you in this journey. If you seriously just focus for 2 minutes with eyes close on that intention – the universe, providence, God or however you define will place the right people in your path.
All the best,
Marie
Thank you Marie! I will do. It is not an easy path. Keep up the good work! Love and Light! Elisabet
Date: Sun, 10 Nov 2013 15:41:52 +0000 To: elizahorn@hotmail.com
I had my first child at 16. I also had a dream that my girlfriend, (the mother) was pregnant, and that her mother, would call my house at 6 am, to announce the pregnancy. At exactly six the call came. I stated to my girlfriend, that our child she would be born a girl, with a hole in her ear, and that she would be very smart. During that time there was no ultra sound to tell about the gender. My daughter was born with a hole in the ear and she would have graduated from high school at 14 years old. Her first grade class tracked her, from elementary school to graduation, and gave her money for college, because she made honors all through school. Yes, I am sure that children, can connect with parents, before birth. I have often felt as if I have been on Earth before.
Following a bad divorce and abuse, I became pregnant a few months ago and went to a clinic to take care of things like my friends suggested. Afterward I knew that I had done something out of sync with the universe – the void left within me woke me in the night and the world seemed dimmed to me. It was the worst mistake and I regret the pain I caused us both every day.
I’ve always been spiritual, but lately that sense has been more dulled, until a few nights ago. I was half asleep when I saw a strange name on what looked like a headstone in my dream. It was unlike anything I’ve ever seen and as I repeated the name to myself in my dream state, I thought how unusual it was – like something from Old English or Latin. Then, suddenly, something brushed against my chest – I jumped out of bed and searched for a bug or whatever had so firmly pressed against me. I found nothing, but laid there trying to fully recall the name.
Then yesterday I was talking to my boyfriend when I felt something brush against the top of my head and face – again I jumped and wondered what was touching me. Do souls have a true name of sorts? And can they come back? If I was pregnant now, could it be that same soul returning? These are new experiences for me and it scares me a little. Any feedback would be much appreciated.
Hi Anna,
Well I’m not a medium, I have spoken with mediums about this topic and yes most seem to agree that a soul can come back and “try again” with you. So that seems totally possible to me. Plus there are many stories of souls request a particular name. Of course there are many others souls for whom the name just doesn’t matter. It’s quite individual. And I have also heard stories of women who experienced the communicate with their spirit baby – physically – just like you.
Hugs
Marie
Hi Marie,
I just found out this message of your blog as I was searching for some answers on the internet. It’s funny how I know that the internet hasn’t got all answers, but I’ve decided to google a little bit anyway. It was when I’ve found this message.
I have got a 7 year old daughter and we have been trying to have a second child for some months now. Actually, I always wanted do have a second child, but we have been postponing it for some years as we had to have our life more stable.
After 3 months of trying I got pregnant …. of twins. In the first ultrasound we saw that one twin wasn’t going to survive as it was much smaller than the other one. Neverthless the other fetus wasn’t as developed as we thought either. We decided to wait a week and I was supposed to get back in for an other appointment next week. But on Saturday I had a miscarriage. And I’m still in the process of seeing if the second baby comes out naturally until Friday.
I started to read the book Spirit Babies by Walter Makichen some weeks ago, because I was always interested in such topics. Before I started reading the book, and even before I got pregnant, I used to talk to my future child and I also felt him / her with me …. or I just thought I would. But I also felt a connection when I talked to him / her and reassured him / her that I would try to be the best mother possible and that I would always be here for him / her.
But I never thought that this would happen to me. I’m still trying to understand the meaning of this miscarriage … because I think that there must be a higher reason.
It always felt so important to have an other child … so important that I’m afraid to not feel complete if I’m not able to have an other child. Of course I would have to accept it at one point, if it wouldn’t be supposed to happen.
On the other hand I feel very positive that the next time will be ok. And what I’m feeling today is that there was a reason of having twins …. because I already got used to the idea of having two babies. Maybe I am supposed to have other two children, but right now wasn’t the right time or I wasn’t supposed to have two at once.
I was sad to read that Walter Makichen died some years ago. Do you know other “spirit babies claivoyant”?
Best regards,
Lu.
Hi Lu,
Sorry for the great delay in responding to this message – I am happy to report that I do have someone for you to get in contact with if you wish to communicate with your spirit babies. I have never met this woman but I have been following her work and blog for over 5 years, and really enjoy her work and ideas. If you do decide to work with Kate, please repost here and let us know about your experience. I’m sure some of the other people who have commented on this post would be interested in how it goes. Kate’s website is http://www.lovefrombaby.com
Hullo there Ms. Marie, when I was a little girl I dreamt about a lady and she is my mum, and I have a younger sibling I don’t know if it is a lad or a girl he/she just an infant I am the eldest in my dream, but in reality I am the youngest and I will not say that I’m adopted even if I’m not really look like my mum, but they said I look like my mum’s mother. Do you think I was born before?
Hi Julie,
Dreams are hard to interpret and I don’t want to tell you what to believe. That being said, yes I believe we live multiple lives and yes I believe you could remember some of these past lives during your dream state. If you are interested in past life regression, I would suggest that you seek out a talented hypnotherapist who could help you access these past lives through hypnosis. As with everything spiritual, there is no way to prove or disprove these beliefs and I think that ultimately it comes down to your unique life experiences and what resonates and feels true to you.
For years my mom & Nana said that I would one day have a daughter. They just felt it and so did I. My mother even went to a very good medium that has been right in the past and was told we would have both genders with a big space in between. We had our first 8 yearsago. Now we are pregnant again and both my husband and I felt strongly in was a girl..we both had dreams. Then about a month ago I suddenly felt it was a boy. We just had an ultrasound a sure enough its a boy. My husband and I were heartbroken as we were so sure. I want to try again after this boy is born but he does not. I can’t help but wonder if the soul left? Can that happen? Why? I feel like I have been talking to this little girl for years but she left us :-(.
Hi dear…
Those type of questions are hard to answer as there could be so many possible explications. My suggestion is to go to a medium who you trust and ask – they might be able to give you some more specific answers. Good luck in your journey.
Marie
Hi Marie,
I lost my premature daughter when she was 17 days old. She was my angel. I was told that I am carrying a boy in my fourth month of pregnancy. During sixth month I had a dream in early morning hours that I gave birth to a premature daughter in 6month. The very next day I got the scan done again and It was a daughter. but I could not anticipate the other fact that time. I gave birth to a premature daughter just at the completion of 6th month who left me forever after 17 days. I was absolutely fine before that without any pregnancy related problem. I am going through intense grief and want my baby back as my child again. I want to know how I saw everything before and will my child come back to me again ?
Hi Meenu
I believe we know more than we realize – perhaps that explains the dream. I hope your child’s soul will return to you!
Marie
I’ve read numerous articles about souls choosing there parents before they come to earth. The hall of records is a library. Where every living soul writes out what they want to achieve,before they come to earth.every thought, feeling and event in your life is compiled here.So yes you choose yor family before you come. Sometimes we’re not always born into nice families.But we are here to have an earthy experience,and they are.Including all human beings.Here to teach us something. I’m a single mother of 2 I had my first child at 17 never heard from the guy again. Meet a man a few years later and we had a daughter together. Thought we’d be together forever.He was never home and I felt like I brought my kids up on my own. I put up with this for 8 years before I said enoughs enough.My daughter is now 10 years old.This girl is the most caring loving wee person .She is my nurse when I don’t feel well, my mother.Always fussing that I eat properly.I take care of myself and always worried about my safety.I constantly wonder where she gets this from?.Regardless of how my life’s turned out I feel god has blessed me with some amazing children,I’ve been a solo mum now for 6 years. And there’s nothing in this world that gives me so much joy.When I’ve had a bad day or feeling down. Theres no one else that can Make me feel better.I’ve always belived nothings a confidence. If god blessed you with 8 children your suppose to have 8 children. Gods sent down his angels to look after me.
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Great post and stories in the comments! I too know that I picked my parents. I remember it clear as day. I was 6 years old and standing with my mom in the garden outside of my childhood home when I told her I was happy that I chose her to be my mother, very matter-of-factly and happily. I remember her asking me questions about how I had known this, as she seemed happy, but taken aback. I told her I just knew. It was not long after this that my childhood took a turn, my parents separated and divorced and things became very hard for us. I quickly became a parent to both of my parents, who I believe had me too young, as they were not really prepared for marriage or parenthood. I am 32 now and came to the realization within the past few years that I chose them more so so that I could help them, rather than the reverse and I believe this to be all part of the master plan. They too have acknowledged this, and our relationships are better now because of it. Fortunately, since becoming an adult I have become a very successful and happy person- even through the dark times of my childhood and adolescence I have been resilient and it has all payed off. I met the love of my life 7 years ago and we’re celebrating our 3 year wedding anniversary next week. We have been trying for just about a year and a half now to get pregnant with our first child and with no success. We recently began seeing doctors but don’t have many answers yet. About 6 months ago I was in a state between being awake and asleep when I heard a voice (not my own) tell me “I’m sorry, not yet” and called me by name. I know in my heart I am supposed to have children, and I believe it will be 2 children, a girl and a boy. I have even been told this by psychics and mediums. Yet I currently feel very sad about how long this process is taking. Today I feel very sad, and wondered why my husband and I have not been chosen to become parents yet, although we both know it will happen. We are a happy, healthy, stable (emotionally and financially) couple who are truly ready to become parents and it is breaking my heart that I feel I am in the dark to this process right now. I read above in someone else’s comment you left that you do fertility hypnosis- do you still do that and do you think it might help? Any suggestions or feedback would be greatly appreciated. Thank you 🙂
Hi Jen,
Yes I do hypnosis for fertility. It’s about reducing stress and tension, and allowing you to be in the parasympathic nervous system which is the part of the autonomic nervous system that is the most associated with fertility. We also do creative visualization to support what your body is doing; seeing happy healthy eggs, clear and open fallopian tubes, warm and pink healthy uterus with just the right amount of lining or cushioning to support an egg, and adjusting the hormones to just the right level to support conception. If women are open to it, we also do a bit of a spiritual invitation to this baby to come and make a home inside of you. If you are interested in doing that sort of work together, I would happily arrange for a skype session. 🙂
Marie
Jen, we would love to include your story in an upcoming book on pre-birth experiences. Please contact us. Blessings, M Beth (Elizabeth Carman)
That sounds interesting! I’m happy to be involved, how can I help? I can be reached directly via email at jen_112us@yahoo.com
I used to be able to feel my spirit babies around me but for the past year or so I haven’t been able to feel them at all and im so worried, I dont know if they’re getting ready to be born or if I’ve left it to late (im 35) and they’ve found someone else. Every time I think about it I get this over whelming feeling and I cant stop crying. Im so lost.
I have been looking for an answer to something I say is the arriving of my baby’s spirit. As I lay in bed trying to go to sleep I felt a big bright light enter my body leaving a smaller light behind as it left. I wanted to know if others had felt anything like that.
Hi Yuli – I had something like this happen to me about a month after you posted this. This past July I was laying in bed, not quite awake yet when I also saw/felt a flash of light that did not come from outside. At first I was a little freaked out, and then I said to myself “I bet I’m pregnant”. Mind you, this was after 1 1/2 years of trying with no luck. So I got out of bed and took a pregnancy test and sure enough, I was pregnant! Pretty amazing huh?! Thanks for sharing your story!
While I find your ideas beautiful and poetic, I have to ask about those who are unable to have children and those who have children and are quite simply horrible parents. I just don’t believe that “spirit babies” would “choose” mothers who are abusing crack cocaine to birth them–leaving them with all sorts of mental, physical, and spiritual pain. As someone who has been close to many foster children and adopted children, who will never recover from what they experienced at the hands of their biological parents, I can’t help but think your beliefs are just what I described–beautiful poetry. Not at all based in reality.
I believe that children do pick their parents and wanted to know more..
Like what books could I read and what about dreams of a. Child you give birth to in your dream.
I find this so interesting. And I really want to read part 2, when is it planed to be posted?
My own religion gives me a lot of clarity about this. I think you would be fascinated by the experiences of some of the members of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints (Mormons) about this. For example: http://www.heavenlyascents.com/2008/08/07/we-lived-in-heaven-sarah-hinze-on-pre-birth-experiences/ To be clear, these experiences are not doctrine because we don’t know for sure how things work, but they are very personal and can be very revelatory if they are understood with the right spirit. They are fascinating nonetheless. It might be helpful to have a basic understanding of our beliefs in order to understand the paradigm from which we interpret them though, so here’s a link for that: http://www.mormon.org/beliefs/plan-of-salvation
Another absolutely fascinating article (all her posts about birth are great): http://www.womeninthescriptures.com/2008/12/importance-of-birth.html
Hi. I find your article very interesting. I found it after doing some research on a concept that I recently heard about bringing old souls back. I lost my baby girl just before delivery due to negligence. I had a complete and healthy pregnancy and after going in to the hospital after our water appeared to have burst, the nurses sent us home. Two days later I came in because my water was still leaking and the nurse then told us that our daughter’s heart was no longer beating. Our daughter was born a stillborn the next day. Do you think once we decide to conceive another child, we will be able to call back that same beautiful spirit? We had already grown to lover her so dearly.. it sucks that our physical time together was cut so short.
I’m so sorry about your daughter. I believe she will come back to you. I think she chose you for a reason and even though her journey in the physical life was cut short, she will come back to you again. Hugs.
ok so my ex told me she saw a psychic an the psychic told her that we had such a bond that a baby spirt had attached to us so now that were broken up what does that mean for the spirt?
Dear Golden Rays of Sunshine,
I believe it depends on the spirit of the baby. Some babies will return to the parent they were most attached to, while others will move on to different parents.
Very true! Makes a change to see somneoe spell it out like that. 🙂
Hi Marie, I have only just started researching spirit babies a few days ago when we found out we were having boy number 3. I had convinced myself it was a girl as it was our last baby and the pregnancy so far had been different from the previous 2. I also had a miscarriage in between the first and second son, and going by ovulation vs making love (6 days) I thought it was a wee girl that we lost.
So when we found out I was having a boy, I cried which is awful I know. I had imagined and created a future life with a girl joining our family. I felt so guilty for feeling that way and instantly started researching spirit babies (I have no idea where I got the idea to do this it just came to me). And now I feel even more guilty as this beautiful soul choose me and my husband to be his family.
So now I want to connect with the bub in my womb and let him know I am really sorry for feeling those feelings, and let him know he is beautiful and I love him and I don’t love him any less because I thought he was a girl initially.
I noticed that you mentioned a part 2 of this blog about connecting with baby in the womb – but I haven’t been able to find it? Could you please point me in the right direction?
Thank you!,
what happens if you die in your sleep? is it that the soul wanted to leave? or maybe God said it’s time or something?
also, what it means if you’re born with your eyes open? no crying either, just silent, craving food! haha
Hi. I was browsing a lot and came across this…. i am married and blessed with a beautiful kid… everyone around me is so good… but still i dont find happiness…. i am always searching for something ….. i dont know what it is…. i long for a better life even though i clearly know i am better than million other people….. recently i am longing to know what i was in past life…. what i will be in next…. i feel like i wanna talk to people who can help me out in these…. could you please help..
I love this!!! I always had crazy thoughts and questions abt similar things that i felt i could never really ask without getting a crazy look from others. I got pregnant with my daughter March 2012 and was due December 2012. During my pregnancy i lost someone so very close to me!! I was alittle over 5 months pregnant and my Aunt Nikki passed away, she was only 6yrs older then me so we were really really close she was definitely more of a big sister but in my eyes she was so much more and held a very special piece of my heart. She is the one who chose the spelling of my daughters first name. The day after her passing we decided to stay with my grandmother so she wasnt alone and that night the baby started going CRAZY in my belly as if she was trying to fight her way out lol. When my aunt was in her teens she loved boxing So i made a joke and said Aunt Nikki just jumped in my baby. Amillias due date was changed 3x it went from 11/30 to 12/2 and then 12/16. We all really wanted her to come on the 12th because her bday wouldve been 12/12/12, but she did not want to come out lol Amillia Rileigh was born 12/14/12 and that date was also my grandmothers 59th birthday. I could only feel like my aunt had something to do with that, after all shes been thru what could be better then a great grandbaby on yur bday? Once my daughters personality finally started to come out there was small things she’d do that reminded me of my aunt. She resembles her alot and i really dont think shes a normal 2yr old. Certain things abt her make me feel like shes an older soul. I also Lost my dad 2 weeks after having Amillia and i always felt like he was around like i felt him, his spirit But ive never felt my aunt the way id feel my dad and i feel like it might sound crazy to say but its always been in the back of my mind, did my aunts spirit really jump into my daughter?!? How possible is that?!
Absolutely possible according to the research in reincarnation. read books by Dr Ian Stevenson, Dr Jim Tucker and Carol Bowman. there are other cases like this. they are rare, but they can happen.
I found out I was pregnant 2 weeks after our wedding(honeymoon baby)We had always said that we’d like to be married before children,and we were just in the nick of time! anyway, the day we found out we told our parents.My husbands mother said that her sister, who worked in the hospital, had been speaking to a man who was in 2 days before we found out, who happened to be psychic. He told her that her dad and 3 other men(her uncles)were standing behind her, her dad had his arm on her shoulder, and then he told her that someone in the family was pregnant and going to have a girl. We had gotten married on the first anniversary of her dad’s death(my husbands grandfather)Anyway, it happened again at another family members psychic night they were having, they said a baby was to be born with ‘pink ribbons’ well I went on to have, you guessed it, a baby girl! I somehow think that my husbands grandfather was involved in all of this somehow, it’s so strange.
I find those stories really inspiring, I’ve lost my baby girl this year March 12,2015, Due to incompetent cervix 5 months. I felt like dying everyday, wishing i could turn back time. I always longing for my baby, then sometimes I dream that I had a bby who is healthy and smiling.. I wish my baby come back to me in time. Sometimes i feel cold in the middle of the night (the fact that its summer and its too hot) i wish i could communicate with my baby.. I dont know when will be the right time, but i wish it would be soon, thanks so much for wonderful advise that you gave.
This really interests me. I do believe babies souls choose. This may sound crazy, but I met this man and our souls connected from the second we saw eachother. He ended up passing at 28 years old on May 26th.
I ended up pregnant a couple years later and I gave birth to a baby boy on May 26th. Maybe it’s just coincidence or maybe not.
I don’t think our souls finished their journey together that is why I think he came back to me just in a new form.
Thanks for sharing this! 🙂
Thanks for the interesting post! I have been told on numerous occasions during readings with psychics/mediums that I am going to have twins. Just recently, I was explained that she can see twin souls in my aura. The problem with this scenario is that I do not wish to have children. I am confident in my choice and being a parent is not something I desire in this lifetime anyway. So your article interested me when you mentioned that souls can hang around a person even if they aren’t birthed in this lifetime. I think I’ll stick with this explanation, otherwise I can’t make sense of why these twin souls are hanging around me!
Beautiful, amazing stories. I didnt feel my first baby at all. I didnt get any signs, my intuition said literally nothing.We were trying for a couple of months however the chances fro getting pregnant were tiny as I was diagnosed with PCOS, so I had to wait for my period first in order to really try for a baby. I did get pregnant though before the period came. One day before giving birth I had this dreadm about little boy. I saw myself pregnant and I could literally see through my belly. I saw my baby in my womb, in the waters, so so vivdly. What surprised me though was that his hair was blonde! We always expected a dark -haired baby as we are both dark -haired and the majority of our family members ara also darker. SO I thought-no no way thiis is not our baby. Well, our baby boy turned out to have blonde hair. When I gave birth to him I realized that I dreamt about our son. Now he is 18 months and we would like to have anoyther baby. I always waned to have a baby girl. there was a period in my life when I was seeing faces of people that I didnt know when I was in my bed. Once I said-show me my children and I saw a boy and a girl – very sharp images. Other time I asked will I have a baby girl? and a few minutes later when I was falling asleep I saw a picture of my son kissing a little girl. This image came so quickly to my head that when I saw it I literally got a bit scared and opened my eyes. Later that night I dreamt about soembody going to ultrasound check and hear a voice very loud: its a girl! I woke up then as well. I dont know how to interpret it. I know our minds can play tricks when we want something very much, so maybe my brain just gave me what I wanted to see and hear or was it really a sign? What do you think?
I am currently looking for a reliable baby psychic who would help me connect with my future baby. There are plenty of baby psychics on the internet but some of them turned out to be not as professional as I expected judging from our first e-mails exchange or a short telephone chat. If you could recommend anybody, I would be very grateful.
Does it matter if two woman are the parents?
That’s a fascinating question Lisa. What’s your feeling? I remember a spirit baby adoption story where the soul wanted to be born in a certain geographic area, and so chose a mother who would give her up for adoption in that region. So I think it would depend on the baby’s spirit. 🙂
If we can choose whether we are boys or girls in spirit, and we have a special connection it makes sense to me that some babies might be choosing the souls they want to be raised by, not necessarily what gender they are perhaps?
It’s just a thought 🙂 Souls aren’t binary like physical genders
Happy to read that others have had similar experiences. I will find out if I’m pregnant or not in a few days (I feel like it!), but this cycle something very strange happened right around the time we will have conceived. I was dreaming and I had this flash, not like a regular dream, this was like something my brain was trying so hard to show me from very far away. It was two children on a rooftop somewhere, they had clothing on from the 60s/70s. They were maybe 2 and 4 years old. The little one had a hood on and was facing away, the oldest, a boy, tuned around and said “will you be my daddy?”. Immediately after those words, the dream went away like it was sucked into a black hole or something. I hesitate to even call it a “dream” because it was so strange feeling. We want two children, maybe he knows how amazing my husband is as wants to be “matched” to us. Just before this, I had a similar flash of a baby, maybe 7 months old, laying on a carpet with a red, white, and blue jumper, I thought this baby was dead in the dream. This image flashed away kind of like pulling the lever on one a view master, like this baby wasn’t meant for me or something. In the morning, I told my husband that I think I saw our baby and felt his soul come inside me.
I absolutely love what you wrote about babies coming to the world.
Thank you
My first memory which really I asked God Why do I have to go, .As I pled let me stay. I had a picture of Jesus buy already k ew him. We didn’t go to church but I always prayed and would attend church on Base. I knew my life’s path. ,.if I follow my first instinct I was always right.
Hi!! Hope I’m not too late! I’m a happy mother of 4, and for 3 of them, I’d had visions of them during my pregnancies. And they are exactly who I had been seeing (except the sex of my 1st). Now, I’ve been seeing another soul, a beautiful boy who just stays there waiting and smiling at me. He seems so happy and confident. The problem is I don’t think I’ll be having other kids. But he won’t leave. And at the same time, I would so much love to have him. It’s torturing me that he is waiting for me, patiently and I’m trying to make him understand that the answer is no. It’s killing me!! I have all the love for him but no energy.
I have been guided to this place as a mother and grandmother. My daughter had a beautiful still born son in October 2020. He was 4 yrs in the making as her husband only recently discovered he had a low sperm count. Now at 32 weeks everything went pear shape due to negligence of her Doctor. It was new territory for me and because of Covid only the 3 of us could be there when it all happened. Now fast forward 9 weeks ago after 2 yrs of trying and almost going down the road of help with freezing his sperm she was suprised to find herself pregnant naturally again. But it was not to be and right now she is in the process of miscarrying. So I had a medium tell me it was a little girl and this one was going to be for keeps but alas it wasnt to be. We were all saying she and felt very strongly it was going to be all smooth sailing as it was different to her first pregnancy. But we were wrong. Our grandsons birthday is on the 12th October and to think she has been lost a week before his heavenly birthday has been devastating. So I am trying to justify every way I can as to why this happened especially after a tragic loss. I feel numb devastated and almost ready to throw away this belief system you are talking about but there is a knowing deep down inside that once again this little soul wasnt a match. I know all of this is so raw after being through it before and wonder at 37 is it going to happen as she doesnt want to do IVF and said 40 was her cut of age.
A couple of years ago, I saw a spirit connected to my girlfriend. We both conceived and got married within two months of that night. It never occurred to me that it might have been the spirit of our future baby. It had very powerful tethers (if that is the right word). Last night, I saw a another spirit that was just starting to create some tethers. I could not see it quite as clearly as the previous one and the tethers were little waves of energy. I assumed it was a future unborn/unconceived child. I whispered, “I love you. We’ll meet soon.” It looked at me for a few seconds and then went back to whatever it was doing. I really hope it chooses to stay with us.
I loved reading this can’t wait for part two my daughter as just found out she’s having a little boy and I wonder if my angel dad as met him